Finding Love After Rupture: The Lost Art of Relationship Repair

Finding Love After Rupture: A 3-day immersion in the Lost Art of Relationship Repair

with international thought leader James 'Fish' Gill

27/28/29 November 2026, daily 9am-4pm

Venue: The Barn, Jardim Farm, 3 Rosalyn Rd, Noordhoek, Cape Town, South Africa

Most relationships don't fail because people stop loving each other. They struggle because, when love inevitably meets disappointment, fear and hurt, very few of us know how to repair. Over three transformative days, Australia's leading Relationship Repair Coach, James 'Fish' Gill, will guide you into a radically different way of relating, one that replaces blame with curiosity, certainty with understanding, and recurring conflict with deeper intimacy.

This is more than a relationship retreat, it is an invitation to utterly shift the way you relate to yourself and those you love in the most painful moments of your life. Through experiential practices, live coaching, guided reflection and meaningful connection with others, you'll learn the lost art of relationship repair: how to navigate conflict without losing each other, offer accountability without shame, respond to hurt with compassion, and create relationships built not on perfection, but on the courage to find one another again and again.

Whether you come alone or with a partner, you'll leave with a way of relating that has the power to change every relationship in your life.

DO YOU LONG FOR THE END OF BLAME, DEFENSIVENESS AND HURT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

If you find yourself getting stuck in arguing, hurts and frustrations with a partner, kids, family or colleagues, and no matter what you do you can t find your way through, then this 3-day masterclass is for you.

Finding Love After Rupture is a rare in-person opportunity to learn how to grow connection, safety, understanding and intimacy in any relationship no matter what shape it is in presently. The skills you will learn will enable you to navigate your current conflicts and upsets to find a deeper, more fulfilling way of relating.

WHAT WILL I LEARN?

Under the guidance of a highly experienced repair facilitator, you ll learn how to:

• EXPRESS your unmet needs skilfully, in ways that invite others to stay present and open
• HEAR and tend to the unmet needs of others, behind their accusations and complaints
• REPAIR unresolved hurts from the past so you can find peace and hope for the future
• DEEPEN the sense of care and intimacy between you and those you cherish most
• RESOLVE day to day conflicts skilfully as they arise, so that no resentments linger
• CREATE and maintain healthy boundaries to help you feel safe, self-respecting and resentment-free

EVENT DATES AND TIMES

The masterclass runs over 3 days in November 2026. Participants are required to attend all hours across all three days:

• 9am to 4pm Friday 27th November
• 9am to 4pm Saturday 28th November
• 9am to 4pm Sunday 29th November

WHAT IT WILL LOOK LIKE

We will practice revolutionary communication tools, and nervous system regulation techniques, to enable you to stay present in the face of relationship rupture and grow deep understanding with those you cherish most. Our group practices and supported discussions will leave you excited to tackle the difficult conversations you ve never known how to have. You ll feel greater confidence and peace in relating to all others, even in tender moments of conflict.

A SAFE SPACE FOR (MAX.) 30 PARTICIPANTS

The masterclass will be an 18-hour program (across three days) of teaching and direct instruction, personal reflection, pair work and group work. Space is limited to 30 participants. Both singles (partnered or un-partnered) and couples are welcome. Given our different comfort levels with sharing the most tender aspects of our relational hurts, participants are supported to engage with the teaching processes only to the extent to which each feels comfortable in any moment.

LOCATION

Our retreat will be held in the beautiful and comfortable Barn at Jardim Family Farm, situated in Noordhoek.

YOUR FACILITATOR

James Fish Gill is Australia s leading relationship communication coach, and author of How To Fall In Love With Humanity. He has transformed relational conflicts with couples, communities and businesses since 2008, and has presented at conferences nationally and internationally. Fish s unique method of compassionate communication and relationship repair has gained a broad reach across 16 countries. He has trained over 40 therapists globally in his radically compassionate method.

I WANT TO SHOW YOU HOW

For 17 years I ve had the privilege of supporting humans from all walks of life through the fire of conflict and guiding them in mastering powerful, practical communication tools and relationship practices to turn their hurts to healing.

In doing so, I ve discovered that:

• Conflict is a healthy and natural part of relating
• The world has trained us in how NOT to repair
• When navigated unskilfully, conflict becomes increasingly oppositional
• When navigated skilfully, conflict is a doorway to deeper connection
• Most of us never learnt how to skilfully repair

WHAT OTHERS HAVE SAID OF THE APPROACH YOU LL LEARN

The peace we now feel about the toughest, recurring issues in our relationship represents a dramatic shift. I feel like we re in it together for the very first time and I'm profoundly grateful for this work! Christine, USA

I ve completed a lot of development courses in my time, and nothing comes close to this. It has profoundly changed how I do my personal and professional relationships! - Alex, Canada

I am deeply inspired and touched by this work. I've been living in deep pain for so long, and for the first time I feel free!" - Marissa, USA

I've been in therapy for nearly 20 years, and nothing has been as powerful as this course. My entire perspective has radically shifted. I'm approaching my life and relationships entirely differently. - Melissa, USA

I m so deeply grateful this process. I ve had a profound shift in how I see the world, and in the relationship with my man. Amie, Australia

This work is changing me from the inside out. I feel free! Hate, fear and anger are leaving me. I feel it in how I'm relating to others. Alice, USA

COST

Attendance at the event costs R13,500 per person.

FOOD & ACCOMMODATION

A delicious vegetarian harvest table lunch will be provided each day, as well as tea/coffee. This will be a non-residential retreat. (Please reach out if you need help with finding accommodation in the area.)

LEARNING MATERIALS

All learning materials will be provided, just bring your courageous heart and your deeply rich experiences of all kinds of human-to-human relationship.

More information about Fish: www.leadbyheart.com

For any questions about this event please contact Talitha Kotz +27(0)82 433 8736 or email talitha.kotze@gmail.com